The Mystery Method

Get laid. It's simple lol ;) 

 

This is the guide to make it easy.

 

The Mystery Method Breakdown

 

 

The Venusian artist must always be leading the interaction. He has no choice. Women seldom take responsibility for what is happening.

 

3 Core Steps To Get Laid 

 

1) Attract 

 

  • You must first encourage her to demonstrate qualities that can substantiate your attraction.

  • Great opening statement for 9’s & 10’s -> I wanted to find out of there was more than meets the eye

  • The most important principle to remember is that the girls should never perceive you as chasing them.

  • ‘Neg Girls’ (Make them feel lower value) - Below are my favourite negs from the book

  • “I don’t think we should get to know each other.You’re too much of a nice girl for me”

  • “My, you come on strong, this isn’t until later in the relationship”

  • “Very good, that is a little test I do to see if you have free thoughts of your own or just believe anything you hear”

  • “It could never work out between us”

  • “I can already tell, you and I are not going to get along”

  • “I’m totally not boyfriend material, that guy over there looks perfect for you”

  • If a girl is in a group, disarm her friends first by demonstrating higher value (Stories, Jokes etc.)

  • When you have the strong inner game, the right things will come out of your mouth automatically.

 

 

2) Build Comfort (Trust & Connection )

 

  • If a woman is not attracted to you, any attempt at comfort building will bore her. Telling her about you, getting her to talk about herself, and complimenting her before she deserves it are all comfort-building attempts.

  • If you are too easy, she will mark you as another notch in her belt and move on in search of more challenging conquests.

  • When touching a girls hand, you're not trying to set a frame that the two of you are explicitly hand-holding like a couple of teenagers marking their territory. Instead, you might be reading her palm, or thumb-wrestling with her, or showing her some jive handshake, or taking her hand and spinning her around in a playful little dance.

  • If a girl says something that you don't resonate with or something that is attempting to put you down, just freeze out

3) Seduce ( Create the opportunity for sex ) 

Notes

  • While there are consistent patterns for what makes humans appear attractive, your look is perceived differently in the eyes of different girls.

  • Unless you answered, “Because my game is tight and I think I’m the shit,” you’re not going to get that girl.

  • While she may not want a player, she does want a quality man who’s experienced and knows what he’s doing.

  • A confidence boost gets you in the game, but it’s sexual success that keeps you in, giving you real confidence that lasts.

  • The alpha male doesn’t make apologies for being a man who has sexual needs. He doesn’t hide his intentions with women, so they know how to provide him with what he wants.

  • As a sexual being, he expects women to be sexual as well.

  • Most importantly, the alpha male is always willing to walk away. His power over women lies in the time and energy he chooses to spend with them.

 

Chapter 1: The Mystery Behind Casanova

  • Nature will unapologetically weed your genes out of existence if you don’t take action and learn how to attract women now.

  • In order for you to be permitted the audience of a beautiful woman to attempt to attract her, you must first disqualify yourself from being considered a potential suitor by her.

 

Chapter 2 - The Ultimate Purpose Of Life

  • You have, on average, 28,251 days to live out your life. This assumes you are smart enough to survive this long. Even if you live to be one hundred, that still only gives you 36,500 days.

  • All humans possess a built-in motivation to stay away from people with low or negative social value.

  • We may draw value from other people by influencing them to help us, but in a fair exchange, we must work to improve their chances as well.

  • The fear of a cold approach never goes away. It’s hardwired into your brain. Confidence is not the objective. Competence is.

 

Chapter 3:- Rewiring attraction circuitry 

  • a woman’s attraction circuitry is calibrated less to a man’s physical characteristics than to his social, and hence survival,

  • The Venusian artist uses emotional stimulation instead of rational discourse.

  • Instead of only trying to give her “good” emotions while avoiding “bad” ones, stimulate her with a range of feelings including curiosity, fascination, connection, indignation, validation, laughter, embarrassment, happiness, sadness, and fear of value loss.

  • The key is that people must see your personality as congruent with your “peacock” image.

  • When she says, “Not here,” you say, “I understand.”

  • Don’t make a woman feel like a slut. To get her in bed or to kiss her, ask her to come to your room not to have sex but to check something out.

  •  The Venusian artist must always be leading the interaction. He has no choice. Women seldom take responsibility for what is happening.

  • It may not seem fair that we men are responsible for leading the conversation, but if we don’t, then we may lose the girl.

  • Girls may test you to find out how easily you throw in the towel—they want to gauge your self-confidence. Just assume that she is giving a little token resistance, and continue.

  • And if you can’t take her crap, how in the world are you going to protect her from other people’s crap?

  • It’s important to remember that often she is not deliberately testing you.

  • When a woman pushes and feels that resistance, it allows her to feel secure with you.

  • The moral is, just because you compliment a girl doesn’t mean it will bring you any closer to sex.

  • It takes an average of four to ten hours to develop enough familiarity for sex.

  • If she flakes on you, don’t confront her about it next time you see her.

  • Keeping a woman around is an active process. After you win her over, you can’t just put her in a box and pull her out like a toy when you feel like playing with it.

  • Your objective isn’t to have sex with her. It’s to allow her to fall in love with you.

  • Seeking rapport, for instance, is often an easy way to open a conversation with a set of 7s but will only get you blown out with a set of 10s. Being cocky and challenging, which 9s and 10s absolutely love, will often cause a 6 or a 7 to react in a nasty way.

  • Therefore, keep the bait just barely out of her reach and then continually entice her in small increments.

 

 

Chapter 4: Rules & Structure of the game

  • Focus on building your skill, not on meeting your new girlfriend or “getting laid.”

  • Don’t obsess over a particular woman. Forget about that girl you have been pining over for the past three months. You need to train first.

  • Make an average of three approaches per hour. This schedule allows for a good twenty minutes per approach.

  • The one who releases himself from the emotional attachment to the desired outcome is, ironically, the one most likely to realize that outcome.

  • Demonstrating that you have women interested in you, in this direct manner, is only one of many ways to trigger the same sexual selection switch.

  • 3 CORE STEPS TO SEX : 

    • 1) ATTRACT  - 

    • 2) BUILD COMFORT - Establish comfort, trust & connection

    •  3) SEDUCE - Structure the opportunity to be seduced

  • If you seek comfort prematurely, it will only make you less attractive to her.

  • If a woman is not attracted to you, any attempt at comfort building will bore her. Telling her about you, getting her to talk about herself, and complimenting her before she deserves it are all comfort-building attempts.

  • If you don’t take the time to attract a woman first, you won’t give her a reason to want to even have a conversation with you.

  • If you are too easy, she will mark you as another notch in her belt and move on in search of more challenging conquests.

  • You must first encourage her to demonstrate qualities that can substantiate your attraction.

  • This point of no return exists where kissing turns into foreplay without enough comfort.

  • if you wait too long to kiss her, she will at some point become uninterested and you will lose the opportunity to kiss her in the future.

  • As kissing prematurely turns to foreplay, it’s time to push her off of you. When doing so, let her know that it’s neither the right time nor the right place to be getting too hot and heavy.

  • Not holding her hands, smelling her neck, or kissing her during the comfort stage can trap you there.

  • There are three types of location changes or jumps: the move, the bounce, and the time bridge.

 

Chapter 5: Open

  • Typically, if a girl is giving off an IOI through proximity, she will stand five to eight feet away from you, facing away.

  • Within three seconds of spotting a woman you are attracted to, you must open her set.The approach must be reactionary,

  • it is important not to be too selective in choosing your sets early in the night; better to be in any set than to get picky and end up alone when you could have been working the room.

  • Smile as you walk around the venue. Guys who don’t have success with women don’t smile.

  • no matter how unacceptable such behaviour may be. If she is able to shake your internal sense of reality, your value will drop in her eyes.

  • How to know if you have disarmed a woman?

    • She laughs at your jokes, even the unfunny ones

    • She turns her face to you and makes eye contact

    • She touches you

    • She asks you your name

  • When you are first opening a set, it’s important to come in at an energy level slightly higher than that of the set.

  • You can create the illusion in her mind that you are just leaving anyway. By using the following techniques:-

    • “You know what . . . if I didn’t have to go right now—which I do—I would . . .”

    • “I can only stay a sec, I’m here with friends, so check this out. . . .”

    • “I’ve only got a minute, so I’ve got to tell you about . . .”

  • Then once you reach the hook point, try delivering another false time constraint. Why? Because the set has now decided that they want you to stay. A false time constraint at this moment will create a fear of loss. Thus begins the cycle of baiting the target to chase.

  • As you speak, begin to turn away and shift your weight to your back leg like you are about to leave, then return as you say, “Oh, by the way, before I go . . . ,” and stack to your next story or routine.

  • The most important principle to remember is that the girls should never perceive you as chasing them.

  • Here is the MM technique for opening moving sets:

    •  Walk along the same trajectory as the set, slightly in front of them. 2. Turn your head back toward the set, run an opener, and then look forward as you speak.

    • Turn your head back toward the set, run an opener, and then look forward as you speak.

    • Continue walking beside the set and gaming them. Slow down and watch them match your pacing.

  • MM Technique for opening seated sets:

    • 1. Open the set (as you would for a standing set). 

    • 2. Part of the way into the opener, use a false time constraint.

    • 3. Continue the opener as you grab a chair and sit down with the set. It’s important to be talking at the same time that you sit down.

    • 4. Stack to your next routine, then stands again as if to leave (a nonverbal FTC), while you speak. 

    • 5. Sit again as you FTC, then stack.

  • When you first run your opener, don’t face the set with your body. Your head may be turned toward the set as you address them, but the rest of your body should not be.

  • Speak. With plenty. Of pausing: Create . . . a certain rhythm . . . to the way . . . that you speak. This will rivet attention to your words.

  • Women are searching for a man whose reality is more fun and valuable than their own.

 

Chapter 6 - Female to Make interest 

  • Signs she is interested : 

    • She reinitiates conversation when you stop talking.  

    • She giggles.  

    • She touches you.  

    • She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you.

  • Passive signs she is interested : 

    • Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing), but she stays.

    •   She comes to see you and hangs with you for extended periods. 

    •  If you move, she follows you or waits for you. 

    •  She doesn’t flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close. 

    •  She doesn’t resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token resistance to avoid feeling like a slut).

  • If you return her IOIs too easily, without making her work for it, you have just become another notch on her validation belt

  • Hot women may respond abrasively initially because they are used to it -keep that in mind

  • Snubbing back a hot girl : Make her feel insecure/neg her -> compliment her to make her feel safe again. 

    • “Too bad I’m gay,”

    •  “Where’s your off button?” 

    • “No touchy,”

    •  “I’ve eaten girls like you for breakfast.”

  • Get as close to the breaking point as you can without crossing the line. When you reach the point where she is about to retaliate, start appreciating things about her (but not her looks).

  • If she gets pissed and rages out at you say : “I’m monumentally sorry. I didn’t mean to step over your boundaries. I merely intended to find them. Now that I know where they are, I promise . . . I will not cross them again. I’m sorry.”

  • Examples of effective negs : 

    • Mystery: I don’t think we should get to know each other. Girl: Why not? Mystery: You’re just too much of a nice girl for me.

    • If your target says something rude, say, “You don’t get out much, do you?” 

    •  If your target interrupts you, say, “Hello, I’m talking, jeez,” or, “Excuse me . . . may I finish my sentence first?” You then say to others in the group, “Is she always like that?” and roll your eyes playfully.  

    • If you are asking a question to two women and the target answers, you say, “I didn’t ask you.” 

    •  If you pull out your photos for the photo routine, first show them to the obstacle. When the target tries to see them, say, “Excuse me! I’m showing her the pictures, not you. Wait your turn, jeez.” 

    •  If a girl kisses you on the cheek and goes to kiss your other cheek, tell her, “Only one . . . don’t be greedy.” If she says, “Yes, but I’m French,” you reply, “Are all French girls as greedy as you?”

    • “That’s a nice hairstyle . . . is that your real hair?” Smile and look at her to show her you are being sincere and not insulting.

    • “Ewww, your palms are sweaty . . . ewwww!!!!! Where have your hands been? No, don’t tell me; I do not want to know!”

    • “You’ve got something in your ear.”

    • “My, you come on strong. That isn’t ’til later in the relationship.”

    • “Very good. That is a little test I do to see if you have any free thoughts of your own or just believe everything you hear.”

    • “Wow. You really wrecked a moment! Your ex-boyfriends must have really hated that about you.”

    • If the woman is older : “Take a quiet moment to get over this age thing. I’ll wait.”

  • Sniper Neg : If a woman does something that is of low value - take advantage of it by making her realize it : Maybe by pausing , or just acting disinterested 

  • For a girl with a group : you disarm the friends with stories, humor, and other DHVs. You’re interesting, fun, and emotionally relevant. In fact, you even steal the spotlight away from the hottie. You further disarm the friends by negging the target.

  • Interesting topics for me to talk about : 

    • Getting a riot started against me in Kashmir

    • Getting ripped off in Spain 

    • LSD experiences 

    • Countries I have traveled 

    • Aid For Nepal 

    • Grade 9 Memes 

    • TCNJ Going to the park to smoke when the cop-car flashes it’s floodlights on us 

  • By introducing multiple conversational threads into your set, you can create a strong feeling of familiarity in the set, as if you are already all old friends.

  • Just recognize that when it is useful to you, you can cut a thread, introduce a new thread to replace it, and still stay on track. In fact, not only will it work, but also she will find you more attractive as a result,

  • “So how do you all know each other?” is a question that must be asked in every set at some point.

  • Do “compliance tests” with women , where you tell them what to do and they do it (example:spin around)

  • False Disqualifies : has a disarming effect while demonstrating value.

    • “It would never work out between us.” 

    •  “I can already tell, you and I are not going to get along.” 

    •  “You’re fired.” 

    •  “You’re too much of a nice girl for me.” 

    •  “You’re a nurse? Oh my God, I can’t even talk to you.”

    •   “I’m totally not boyfriend material. Hey, that guy over there looks perfect for you.” 

    •  “We are so broken up. I want my CDs back.”

  • Always smile on the approach. It’s less threatening.

  • Great opening statement : “I wanted to find out if there was more to you than meets the eye.”

  • When approaching a group of two , focus on the person that you don’t find attractive first - give her all your attention & neg the person you’re attracted to if she interrupts 

 

Chapter 7 - Male to female interest 

  • Her emotions prefer a man of high value, high enough that it requires effort and investment in order to win him over.

  • So it’s important that the frame you convey in those assumptions is one where she wants you and is chasing after you, whereas you are the one with higher value, you are the one who decides if you want to continue with her, and you are screening her to make sure she qualifies herself to you.

  • Some examples of role-reversal lines:  

    • “Don’t think you’re going to get something just because you’re buying me this drink.”  

    • “Geez, are you always this forward?”

    •   “I don’t want to rush things.”

    •  “I don’t want to get hurt. I need lots of comfort and trust first.” 

    •  “I want to get to know you better first.” 

    •  “I don’t do that on a first date.”  

    • “Hey, hands off the merchandise. This isn’t free, you know.”

    • “I’ll be the judge of that.”  

    • “You just want me for my body.”  Take her hand, then as she reciprocates pull back and say, “Not so fast.” 

    •  “Are you always this fast?” 

    •  “. . . yeah, if you’re lucky.”

    •   “I’m not ready to be in a relationship right now.” 

    • “I wore my old briefs tonight to make sure nothing happens.” 

    •  “I swear, all you girls do is think about one thing.” 

    •  “Oh my God, are you groping me?”  

    • “You’re a really nice girl.” (This one is killer!)  

    • “That guy over there looks perfect for you.” 

    •  “I don’t even know you.”  

    • “Let’s just be friends.”

  • When you have strong inner game, the right things will come out of your mouth automatically.

  • These should be your standards with women : 

    • I have a lot of choice when it comes to women. I am accustomed to success with women.  

    • If I do take a liking to you, it is more than just for your looks. It is because you are a special and unique person who lives up to my high expectations. 

    •  I will only be with a quality woman, and that’s what you are.

  • The idea is to get her hoping that she’s good enough to qualify for you. After all, you are a high-value guy.

  • Questions to ask a girl to screen her :

    • “Is there more to you than meets the eye?”  

    • “What do you want to be when you grow up?”

    • “Who are you?”

    • “If a magician came along and you could be poof anything you want to be . . . what would you choose? And don’t say princess.”

  • She naturally assumes that the man she is looking for will be selective.

  • You don’t want to appear as if you lack social intelligence and are thus incapable of leading the dance.

  • When touching a girl’s hand, you’re not trying to set a frame that the two of you are explicitly “hand-holding” like a couple of teenagers marking their territory. Instead, you might be reading her palm, or thumb-wrestling with her, or showing her some jive handshake, or taking her hand and spinning her around in a playful little dance.

  • While escalating, take one step forward, metaphorically speaking. At any sign of hesitation or defiance, take two steps back.

  • Frame it as though you are the prize and you’re not going to let her get anywhere with you tonight ’cause you have to work tomorrow.

  • She doesn’t feel like you’re trying to get something if you’re constantly pushing her away. This allows her to feel safe while having fun with you.

  • . . . draw near to her saying that it would never work out between you, but stroke your finger down her cheek at the same time.

  • Compliance tests : 

    • You take her hand and drop it . . . she grabs for it again  

    • You squeeze her hand and she squeezes back  

    • You touch her and she touches you back 

    •  You put her hand on your knee and she leaves it there  

    • You put her arm in yours and walk her around the venue. She complies 

    •  You sit her on your lap. She allows it  

    • When you are locked in, you take her hand and pull her in a little closer as you are talking at the same time. Now she is standing between your legs as you run game on her.

    • Getting her to invest. (She goes to retrieve a drink for you; she spends some money on you, etc.)

    • Getting her to move with you or bounce to another location.

  • KEYWORDS : 

    • 1. DHV—Demonstration of Higher Value 

    • 2. DLV—Demonstration of Lower Value (other people do this, not you)

    • 3. IOI—Indicator of Interest 

    • 4. IOD—Indicator of Disinterest 

    • 5. CT—Compliance Test (almost all interactions at some point come down to a test for compliance; will you get compliance or

  • Qualifiers : Periodically, the time comes to let a girl know she is qualifying for you. She has to feel like she is winning you over; otherwise, she will get discouraged.

    • “You are so adorable . . . it’s sickening.” 

    •  “You know, you can be pretty interesting sometimes.”  

    • “You’re awesome! Just kidding.”  

    • “It’s weird . . . I feel so good around you.” (False disqualified) “Too bad you’re not my type.”

    • “You’re pretty . . . and evil.”  

    • Oh my God, you’re a dancer? That is so awesome. I can’t even talk to you now.”

  • "Too bad you’re totally not my type. You’re a cool girl; we should find you someone tonight”

 

 

8 : Conversation

  • Don’t explicitly try to impress or show off. Don’t directly tell impressive facts about yourself. Don’t seek attention, approval, or understanding from others. Guys who are worried about what hot women think already bother them enough. Try being the one guy who isn’t worried.

  • Cut boring threads: yours or hers. Lead the frame.

  • Don’t ask a bunch of questions. They don’t add value and they come off as rapport seeking. Instead of asking her where she’s from, make a guess.

  • People tend to be more attracted to those who they consider to be similar to them in some way.

  • If a girl says something that you don’t resonate with or something that is attempting to put you down , just freeze out

  • Talking is also a powerful logistical tool that keeps her conscious mind occupied and out of trouble while you advance the courtship. You don’t want her anti-slut defense rearing its ugly head and screwing everything up.

 

9 : Mid & End Game

  • Mid-game is an opportunity to practice being with a girl and kissing her,

  • How will you know the right moment to kiss? You must train your intuition through time in the field. A good rule of thumb is not to bother trying to kiss her until after she has given you three IOIs. For example She touches you, she laughs at your jokes, and she picks up the conversation when you let it drop.

  • Kissing a girl:-

    • You say, “Shh! You talk a lot. Would you like to kiss me?” If she says yes, kiss her. 

    • If she says, “Maybe,” “Why?” “What do you mean?” or “I dunno,” it means she would but is shy about it. Reply with a gleam in your eye, “Let’s find out,” and kiss her. Consider caressing the back of her neck to show you mean business, and abide by the 90/10 rule: You advance 90 percent of the way and she must advance 10 percent of the way to kiss you.

    •  If she says no, reply, “I didn’t say you could, punk; it just looked like you had something on your mind.” (Don’t ask, “Why not?” because it shows low self-esteem.)

  • Date plan for TCNJ:- 

    • Grab some food & eat by the lake 

    • Get some drinks from my room 

    • Smoke some pot by the lake?

    • Go back to my room and roll 

    • Smoke at the lake 

    • Make out at the lake 

    • Leave.

    • Plan #2 

  • when in doubt attempt to escalate. Even if you’re wrong, it will still improve your calibration.

  • Token resistance is necessary to make that feeling real. If you don’t resist, she will.Saw “We should stop"

  • When you’re slowly undressing her for the first time, whisper in her ear how beautiful she looks bathed in candlelight—

  • Kissing is a comfort builder. Through practice, it is possible to isolate and kiss girls consistently within twenty minutes of opening the set.

  • A time bridge is an agreement to see each other at a later date. This is an optional move in your game that you play only if you cannot follow the standard game plan of bouncing her for food and eventually sex.

 

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